I Used to Solve Problems By Blaming Others. Here’s What I Do Instead.

I’ve made some bad hires in the past.

At one point, one of these hires infected people on the team with her gossip. She spewed negativity. A select few slowly began to rot and tarnish our values, the team, and what we stood for.

I wanted to blame her for being an asshole. I wanted to blame the others for being stupid enough to follow her.

But in the end, I was the only one to blame.

So I decided to focus on the problem by asking myself a couple of questions instead.

How can I solve the problem? What can I learn from the situation? How am I reacting?

Most problems aren’t problems at all. It’s your reaction to certain situations that create a problem. Think about it. If someone starts to degrade you verbally, your response to the verbal attack creates a problem.

If you ignored the person or went on with your life, the verbal attack wouldn’t be a problem.

I started to speak with important people in my life, one being my business coach, to figure out how I could learn from my mistakes.

The answer was simple: