Become A Master At Nurturing Relationships With This One Simple Strategy

We often fail at being generous.

The reason? We want to feel in control of our time. So I’ll “do it” when I’m not as busy or when I’ve crafted the perfect message is what we tell ourselves.

The excuses always seem to overpower the desire.

I’ll donate my time to a good cause, I’ll write my best friend a letter, or I’ll call my spouse to tell her how much I love her, “tomorrow” or “another day.”

“But the only donations that count are the ones you actually get around to making,” writes Oliver Burkeman in his book Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals.

Here’s is the best strategy to be more generous and nurture meaningful relationships:

Cultivate instantaneous generosity

My wife is incredibly gifted in the generosity department.

Me? Not so much.

I have too many things to do (excuse sound familiar?). I would always blab on about how I needed to call my sister, to visit my best friend, or to call and see how someone was doing that I was thinking about.

She would tell me, if you think of someone, call them and let them know what you were thinking about.